Where to meet "quality" gay men in New York?

Friends have been asking, where do we meet good quality gay men in the city?

Well...go to a steak house! Real quality gay men are those with some hetero tendencies. They throw back a few brews mostly and don't indulge in wine that much! Is this true? Drinking wine is so so so gay and friends say real quality gay (and straight) men don't drink wine that much and they don't get obssessed with the way they look! Quality gay men are simpler and sexier and they are more approachable. Highly gay-concious gay men are very unapproachable, angry, and cold instead of looking sexy and classy. Is this true? We queers love Anderson Copper, Robert Thomas, Bill Hemmer, Ron Corning, Ben Lyon, and John Muller. Why? They are very very sexy and classy. In the end, it is not about being gay and fashionably gay...it is about being simply classy, approachable, and desirable.

How to be classy, approachable and desirable? Well, friends say don't smell like women, don't be squeaky clean (leave your natural smell on), be a little messy like straight men do (but don't be too dirty or sloppy tho many gay men love that!)...the problem is: many gay men are so clean, entering their apartments is like opening a fridge -- everything is in place but cold. No?