WHEN IS IT OK BE LESS THAN A MAN?
"An actor is something less than a man; an actress is more than a woman" - so the old theatrical saying goes, and the old theatrical, Bette Davis, had it inscribed on her cigarette case. The implication is that most actors are queers, or are less vinie and heroic than the roles they play.
Homosexuals, on-stage or off, have always been seen as being something less than menn; something weaker, or lacking in masculinity. You can wheel out the old Rock Hudson vs Quentin Crisp debate, but basically this is widely held as being true. We do feel like the weakest link; the lesser persuasion. Out battle for equality much like that of women, is really only outr making cliams fot be treated legally as equals to other human beings, male and female, but off-paper we know that society will not look at us any differently.
We can pay the same taxes, and earn the same pay, but at the end of the day we are still perceived as a lot of silly pansies at best, or sick depraved perverts at worst. Oh well, at least they've stopped throwing us in jail...We queers are just as guilty of being judgmental about our own kind.
Some men, it would seem, are gayer (camper, or queenier) than others. And a lot of us gay men hold them in low regard. In my country, Malaysia, a gayer men is called Pondan in Philippines, Baklak. And there is no names for the straight-looking ones with gym body types. The straight-looking gay men in Asia think they have higher standards than gayer looking ones. They think they suck bigger and better cocks than the gayer ones. And some of them are still not not interested in being friends or even seen with the gayer ones or worse getting head from the gayer ones. Anwyays, that is not the point. The point is: in our society or subculture, there are always people looking down on others. From the fit to the fat, the ancient of teenage, the rich to poor, the camp to butch, there is definitely some soet of pecking-order in this our Gay World.
Nearly everyone thinks that drag queens, trannies men like taking it up the ass (so I get so frustrated evertime I see muscle Marys - the macho, muscled, 9-incher straight looking ones display themselves as BOTTOM men online). So now bottom men must be macho and mascular too in order to get laid in Chelsea.
To be "passive" is to be somehow less of a man than someone who is "active". Tops are "butch" and bottoms are "femme". And that is where the general knowledge ends in Chelsea. Are you Arthur or Martha? (or are the you the man or the woman?) "Do you give or take?" What does it matter? What difference does it make? Does being "submissive" mark you as some sort of a victim or underdog? Are we so old-fashioned about sex that we think men should wear trousers and women (drag, etc) wear skirts and are mere walking pressure-slots? What do you think homos?
"An actor is something less than a man; an actress is more than a woman" - so the old theatrical saying goes, and the old theatrical, Bette Davis, had it inscribed on her cigarette case. The implication is that most actors are queers, or are less vinie and heroic than the roles they play.
Homosexuals, on-stage or off, have always been seen as being something less than menn; something weaker, or lacking in masculinity. You can wheel out the old Rock Hudson vs Quentin Crisp debate, but basically this is widely held as being true. We do feel like the weakest link; the lesser persuasion. Out battle for equality much like that of women, is really only outr making cliams fot be treated legally as equals to other human beings, male and female, but off-paper we know that society will not look at us any differently.
We can pay the same taxes, and earn the same pay, but at the end of the day we are still perceived as a lot of silly pansies at best, or sick depraved perverts at worst. Oh well, at least they've stopped throwing us in jail...We queers are just as guilty of being judgmental about our own kind.
Some men, it would seem, are gayer (camper, or queenier) than others. And a lot of us gay men hold them in low regard. In my country, Malaysia, a gayer men is called Pondan in Philippines, Baklak. And there is no names for the straight-looking ones with gym body types. The straight-looking gay men in Asia think they have higher standards than gayer looking ones. They think they suck bigger and better cocks than the gayer ones. And some of them are still not not interested in being friends or even seen with the gayer ones or worse getting head from the gayer ones. Anwyays, that is not the point. The point is: in our society or subculture, there are always people looking down on others. From the fit to the fat, the ancient of teenage, the rich to poor, the camp to butch, there is definitely some soet of pecking-order in this our Gay World.
Nearly everyone thinks that drag queens, trannies men like taking it up the ass (so I get so frustrated evertime I see muscle Marys - the macho, muscled, 9-incher straight looking ones display themselves as BOTTOM men online). So now bottom men must be macho and mascular too in order to get laid in Chelsea.
To be "passive" is to be somehow less of a man than someone who is "active". Tops are "butch" and bottoms are "femme". And that is where the general knowledge ends in Chelsea. Are you Arthur or Martha? (or are the you the man or the woman?) "Do you give or take?" What does it matter? What difference does it make? Does being "submissive" mark you as some sort of a victim or underdog? Are we so old-fashioned about sex that we think men should wear trousers and women (drag, etc) wear skirts and are mere walking pressure-slots? What do you think homos?